Daily Archives: June 7, 2014

Lighted Chalice Weekly for June 7, 2014


Sunday Forum 9:00 a.m.; Sunday Service & Religious Exploration Classes 10:30 a.m.
Nursery & Childcare Available.

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A month of Sunday Services

Worship Leader: Rev. Daniel Charles Davis
Worship Associate: Bill Welge
Pianist: Richard Maddux
Sound: Jason Dufair
Fellowship: Dorothy Hughes
Pulpit Preparation: Nina Kirkpatrick

A humorous look at the foibles and follies of Unitarian Universalism. Our ability to laugh at ourselves is a strength. It can lead to a deeper understanding of who we are and who we need to be.

Worship Leader: Rev. Daniel Charles Davis
Worship Associate: Bill Welge
Pianist: Richard Maddux
Sound: Mary Finley
Fellowship: Josh & Linda Prokopy
Pulpit Preparation: Nina Kirkpatrick
Once, a man’s only job was to bring home the bacon, whether by hunting wild boar or earning a living outside the home. Fatherhood has become more complex over previous generations.

Worship Leader: Dianna Poindexter
Worship Associate: Michael Lewis
Pianist: Richard Maddux
Sound: Mike Marsh
Fellowship: Pulpit Preparation: Robin Poindexter, Susanne McConville

Worship Leader: Damon Lincourt
Worship Associate: Pianist: Richard Maddux
Sound: Gary Mueller
Fellowship: Cheryl Fowler
Pulpit Preparation: Nina Kirkpatrick

A month of Sunday Fora

  • JUNE 8 Dave Bangert, Journal & Courier Columnist and Op Editor: Discussion Regarding J & C Opinions Page, followed by Q&A
  • JUNE 15 Ed Eiler, Ed.D., Retired Lafayette School Corporation Superintendent: Education in Indiana
  • JUNE 22 Rocky Killian, Ed. D., Superintendent of Schools, West Lafayette Community School Corp.: Education by Humiliation
  • JUNE 29 Dan McCain, Director, Delphi Canal Park Association: Canal Days Festival, Delphi, Indiana

From the Board President

As the enormous gavel (truly enormous!) was passed from Mark to me at the last Board meeting, I guess it’s official, and time to do a quick introduction of myself.

I’m Gale Charlotte, and I’ve been a member of this church for almost 20 years. I’ve been on the Board for at least 10 of those years, serving as a Trustee, substitute Secretary (for Verna Ritz, who traveled to Washington, D.C. for part of a year), and Treasurer. I was also on the Future Space Committee when we made the huge decision to move from our former home on South Seventh Street in Lafayette to “something bigger”. Some might say I’m a glutton for punishment, but I guess I’ve always felt that serving on the Board was a way to make sure that this church continued to be a part of this community. Many of the decisions made in Program Council and at Board meetings are a vital component of maintaining our presence, and I wanted to do what I could for a church that has given so much to me and to my family.

You see, my children were raised as UUs, and when I “came out” to them as a lesbian, the first thing they both said to me was, “Mom! I went to RE at the UU Church—I’m fine with this. Really.” I feel that, had we gone to another kind of church, those conversations would have been so much more difficult. The members of our congregation have also been so very supportive of me, and of Karen, my partner of nine years. I know others who have been shunned by their religions, forced to drop out of the church, stripped of any crucial support, so being embraced by all of you is something I do not take for granted.

So, I will do my best to give back to you.

I encourage you to contact me, or any Board member. We are here to listen to you, and to take your dreams, concerns, and wishes to the rest of the Board.

This year, we will be filling some key personnel positions, so I ask for your support and understanding as we try to fill these vacancies. You may be called upon to help in some way, and I do hope you will step up as needed. This year, we will also be making some major financial decisions, and I hope you will not only be a part of those discussions, but can then support our church monetarily. I have a feeling that, if you feel the way I do about our church, it will not be difficult for you to give your support.

And for that, and so much more, I thank you.
Best wishes,
Gale Charlotte

From the Minister

School's out for Summer. Church attendance tends to decline. So I am suggesting a spiritual assignment for summer. Be mindful when you encounter water. Think about its practical and metaphorical meanings. Be aware of its scarcity or abundance. People start returning to church on the first Sunday after school starts. This year that will be on August 17 and we will hold the UU water ceremony. Prepare for that Sunday by continually asking, “Is this the water I seek?”

In the morning shower one can ask,
“Is this the water I seek?”
Does it mean cleanliness or godliness?
“Is this the water I seek?”

At the beautiful vacation destination,
“Is this the water I seek?”
Does it bring escape or reconnection?
“Is this the water I seek?”

In the plastic bottle from the big box store,
“Is this the water I seek?”
It is wasteful yet convenient.
“Is this the water I seek?”

Water for baptism and quenching,
Or water balloons drenching,
A sprinkler for yard work or play.
“Where is the water I seek?”
“Why is this the water I seek?”
“Is this the water I seek?”

Rev. Charlie

From the Director of Religious Exploration

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize
that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. --Eckhart Tolle

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did,
but people will never forget how you made them feel. --Maya Angelou

Three years.

Depending on your vantage point, it’s a significant amount of time—or not all that long.

I’ve just completed my third year in service as your Director of Religious Exploration, and from my personal vantage point, three years is both—a long time… and not long enough.I’ve had some amazing experiences with you folks, children, youth, and adults alike, and I can easily envision even more that we could do together. there have been challenges and changes in my personal circumstances in recent months, life is short, and , well… I’ve been hearing the persistent calling of other muses. And so it is with bittersweet and mixed emotions, after much soul searching, I have decided to branch off in another direction on my life’s path. I hope you have felt and will continue to feel my love and fondness for this congregation, and know that I wish you all the best. I will truly miss being a part of this community, and I hope at least some of you will stay in contact. Champaign is not really that far away!!

In an effort to make the transition of my leaving as easy as possible, I have tried to document the vision and goals the R.E. Council and I worked on during my time here. By the time you are reading this, there will have been a retreat, facilitated by district folks and attended by a representative population of the congregation’s stakeholders who know where the R.E. program has been in the past, who have kids, both younger ones and older, and R.E. Council, board members, and Reverend Charlie, who will have spent time reflecting , dreaming, and planning to craft a blueprint for next steps—both short-term and for the future.

My official resignation date is July 1. Until then, I will continue to try to help out where I can in getting things ready for the upcoming months. The nursery is in capable hands with Lizz Cohen. Rae Schnapp and Beth Hoffmann have been busy working on getting together a list of volunteers and summer gardening activities for our pre-k through middle school gang. Please help if you can—youth, this includes you!! On Sunday, June 8th, be sure kids come to church wearing sunscreen and dressed to get dirty, for that is the day we have targeted to plant our pizza garden (among other things).

The high school youth group has a trip to Cedar Point coming up June 13-14. Parents and youth—watch your email for more info and be sure to let Kat and Mark know if you plan to join in on the fun asap!In July, we have two youth who will be attending Youth Midwest Leadership School- a very cool thing, not only for them, but for the youth group and congregation- way to represent UUCTC Fia Esquivel and Ben Lincourt!!

At some point this summer, (hopefully sooner, rather than later) we hope to have a Spirit Play story basket making party, open to everyone. And last but not least, coming this fall, Barny Dunning and Amy French will be teaching 7th-9th grade Our Whole Lives, comprehensive sexual education. Be sure and speak with one of them if you have or know of a youth who might be interested in participating.

In the coming weeks, please be looking for R.E. registration forms and get them completed asap! really makes a difference to have them when trying to plan. R.E council members for next year areSchnapp, Elizabeth Hoffmann, Kirsten Reynolds, Andrea Burniske, and Neil Schmitzer-Torbert. one of them contacts you to help out, please consider it. I think most adults find working with our kiddos a surprisingly meaningful endeavor and spiritual practice for themselves.

See you at church,
Sheila Garrett, Director of Religious Exploration

Special Note: Have you signed up to help out with Summer RE activities yet?If not- please consider helping out! Beth Hoffmann has the volunteer list and there's lots of fun stuff planned. Parents: there will be a significant amount of time spent outdoors this summer, so please remember to have your kids wear sun screen and clothes that are okay to get dirty. If there are allergies we need be aware of, please let our Sunday R.E. volunteers know. Thanks!

Change for Change recipients

The theme for 2014 is “Helping Our Community.” The May/June C4Crecipient is Home with Hope. The Home With Hope is the only facility of its kind in the Lafayette area that provides a continuum of care, often following primary treatment or detox for alcoholism and other drug addictions, for men and women age 18 and older. “We help our clients learn how to live their lives as acceptable members of their communities, free from addiction and substance abuse, by providing an environment conducive to recovery.  We provide strict monitoring and structure, case management, random drug and alcohol screening, and the opportunity to seek employment and work in the community.  Further, we require daily 12-step meeting attendance, acquiring a 12-step sponsor and ‘home group’ within their first 30 days of residency, as well as daily accountability.”


The Membership Committee has a mission of nurturing and supporting members through all stages of their membership journey. The Committee meets on the fourth Thursday of the month at 6:00 PM. For questions about the committee, please contact Sallie Cooke, salliec@frontier.com.

The 2014 Member Directory will be available in print copy. The printing cost is $3.00 so donations will be most welcome to help defray the expense to produce the directory. Rosemary Leary continues to donate countless hours to photograph individuals and families and to compile the print copies. The directory may also be viewed online.

Josh Prokopy writes biographies of members for the Membership bulletin board and for publication in the newsletter. All biographies are archived in a notebook in the library.

We hope you will use the member directory and the member biographies to get to know the people in this wonderful UU community.

-- Sallie Cooke, Membership Chairperson, sallie@frontier.com

Photo directories

We have recently printed another edition of our UUC picture directory.you would like your picture added or updated, contact Rosemary Leary at 463-4246 or rleary207@aol.com. We will be taking pictures at church on Sunday mornings, or you can send her a jpeg format digital picture that you would like to have us use.

Spirit Play Item Donation Needed!

We are gathering items for our Spirit Play classroom. Please take a look through your home and see if you could spare some of the items we will need. Donations are being accepted now in the preschool room. hope to be able to schedule a Spirit Play work party day sometime very soon.

**Spiritual Play/Story Basket Creation**

  • wooden figures representing people, animals, and objects
  • greenery (trees, plants)
  • small (under 6") high quality stuffed animals/finger puppets (especially realistic ones)
  • high quality sets of blocks (natural color: architectural blocks especially sought)
  • other sacred objects or models of sacred places (singing bowls, Buddha statues, Stonehenge models, Zen sand gardens, finger labyrinths, etc.)
  • Child-sized clothing from world cultures and religions
  • high quality items relating to religious holidays (i.e. creche sets)

Household items

  • 3-5 foot wooden bookcases
  • child-sized wooden table seating 2-4 kids
  • carpet sweeper
  • child-sized brooms, dustpans, and dusters
  • working ipods/docking stations
  • CD players and headphones
  • CDs of spiritual/reflective music or music of world cultures and religions
  • baskets (all sizes, without overarching handles)
  • attractive trays (all sizes)
  • attractive small cups, bowls, and pitchers
  • wooden boxes
  • small sturdy vases

Craft items

World religions rubber stamps (cross, Star of David, mandala, yin yang, etc.) plain child-sized smocks or aprons mandala makers mosaic tiles


  • play silks or scarves
  • musical instruments

Sheila Garrett, DRE

Please support Energy Indiana!

Energizing Indiana has supported our congregation. Now our congregation can support Energizing Indiana.

There is a proposal to cut them out of the Indiana state budget. There is a comment period on Energizing Indiana that expires Monday, 6/9. This link will support Energizing Indiana so that their funding will be restored.

Energizing Indiana sponsored a program that performed many home energy audits for our members along with free high efficiency light bulbs and shower heads. Energizing Indiana paid over $1200 dollars to our church for sponsoring these audits. Energizing Indiana performed a four hour energy audit at the church building last month and delivered a 12 page report to us.

Please comment on the link to help restore support of Energizing Indiana.

With Gratitude and Hope,
Rev. Charlie

A-REC Presents Ongoing opportunities at UUC!

  • Monday Evening Meditation: 7-8:15 pm, Room 101/103 with Larry Hicks & Jody Tishmack; other facilitators to be arranged
  • Taiji Qi Gong: Monday/Wednesday/ Friday 7:30 am with Lisa Petersen
  • Zen Meditation: Thursday 5:30 pm, sitting, chanting & reading; Saturday 8:00 am, with Russ Flynn

Adding events and announcements to this newsletter

To submit information for inclusion on the church’s Facebook PageGoogle + pagenewsletterblog, or to have an announcement made before service, please complete this form.  If you need space at the church or want to add your event to the My Church events listing, contact Karin first at uuc@uulafayette.org.  Send feedback to Alice or Karin.  Thanks!


June 7: UU Goodwill Clothing Drive

The Unitarian Universalist Church is holding their annual Goodwill Clothing Drive on Saturday, June 7th, from 10am to 2pm. Please bring your bags to the side door on Smiley Street. There will be helpers to assist you with your bags.  Members of the church can bring their bags to the Upper Room of the Fellowship Hall any time between June 1st through June 8th. Remember to donate clothing only, no shoes, toys, belts, or hangers. The vouchers we receive for each bag of clothing go to Lafayette Urban Minestry, Carey Home for Children, the YWCA Woman’s Shelter, and Family Promise.  Thank you. For more information contact Susanne McConville, 765-477-0344 or mcconville1200@comcast.net.

June 10: A-REC Monthly Drumming Session, 7:30-9 pm

Structured drumming sessions! Learn about drumming in the West African style, facilitated by Sundeep Rao and Robin Pickett of the local West African percussion ensemble circAfrique. Bring your drum, or ask if a drum is available for use (there are about 6-8) for a small, extra donation. Your drum will need to make at least two distinct sounds. Bells, shakers, and other percussive instruments are welcome! $10 requested donation per session. Some scholarships available so let us know of your needs. RSVP & details: http://goo.gl/2gw2I or information email info@circafrique.com or call Suzan at 765-714-6173 or via Facebook pages for UUC or circAfrique!

June 10: Board Meeting

Board Meetings take place each third Tuesday at 6:30 pm in Conference Room 101/103, next on Tuesday, June 10, 2014. Church members are welcome to attend and are encouraged to speak with members of the Board of Trustees regarding congregational questions and concerns.

June 11: UU Flames softball game, 7:00, Blessed Sacrament fields

June 18: UU Flames softball game, 7:00, Blessed Sacrament fields

June 19: What to Expect During a Hospital Stay, 6:30-8:30 pm, Rm 101/103.

A short presentation by Dr. Jeffrey Brown, Medical Director and Hospitalist Department Director and Dr. Jim Bien, Vice President of Quality & Patient Safety followed by ample time for conversation.

Part of The Conversation Project, this program will help you and your family know how to talk "in advance" about various types of care you want OR don't want to receive during an inpatient hospital stay.  Contact Suzan Windnagel, A-REC or Karin Bergman uuc@uulafayette.org and 765-743-8812 with questions.

June 20: UU Service Auction!

The UU Service Auction is quickly approaching. This year we are holding our Service Auction on June 20th,  6:00 pm-10:00pm. Tickets are $10 per person and will include dinner. Child care will be provided. Service Auction donation forms, which will soon be available, can be submitted to Julie Rubsam. Donation items need to be dropped off to the “Upper Room” of the Fellowship Hall by June 13th to be included in event program. Contact: Julie Rubsam, 765-412-2967, julie@rubsam.net

June 25: UU Flames softball game, 7:20, Arni Cohen Fields South #1

June 26: A-REC Book Discussion Group: "You Can't Put God in a Box: Thoughtful Spirituality in a Rational Age." 6:30 -7:30 PM. 

Come discuss Can't put God in a Box: Thoughtful Spirituality in a Rational AgeKelly Besecke. book explores the theological thinking of educated spiritual seekers and religious liberals, and shows how many of them have come up with a unique way of addressing the "modern problem of meaninglessness." do you think?  You don't have to have read the book, but if you'd like to purchase it, we are taking orders and will order the book for you -- $20 including shipping.  Books must be ordered by June 5. Please contact Janice Schuster if you would like to order a book: jrschust@gmail.com.  In addition, the author will be speaking at our church in the Fall for another A-REC activity; this would be an opportunity to discuss the book before her visit.

July 2: UU Flames softball game, 7:20, Blessed Sacrament fields

July 10: Social Justice meeting

There is much to be done in the social justice arena; if you are interested in becoming involved in our activities, please join us at our next meeting-- Thursday, July 10 at 7:00 pm in Room 101-103.  If you have questions, concerns, or ideas, contact co-chairs Joan Marshall, jmarshal900@yahoo.com, &Tom McConville, tmcconville1200@comcast.net.

July 13: Talk and Tour, after service

Please join us immediately following service each 2nd Sunday for “Talk and Tour,” next on July 13. This 15-minute guided walk through the building is designed to familiarize newcomers with our congregation and facilities.Participants do not need to sign up in advance—simply gather at the Newcomers Table outside the Fellowship Hall at 11:45. Thanks!

Daily Calendar for June

June 6, Friday
UU Goodwill Collection June 1-June 8, Upper Room & Fellowship Hall
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
12:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)
6:30 PM PRYSM (102)

June 7, Saturday
Caring Paws Therapy Dog Testing
8:00 AM Zen M
10:00 AM UU Goodwill Collection June 1-June 8, Upper Room & Fellowship Hall

June 8, Sunday
UU Goodwill Collection June 1-June 8, Upper Room & Fellowship Hall
9:00 AM Forum (101/103):
10:30 AM Worship & RE
11:30 AM UU Talk and Tour following service!
12:00 PM UU Fiberarts Quilting Bee (101/103)
12:00 PM UU Membership Class: (104)

June 9, Monday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
12:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)
7:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)
7:00 PM Monday Meditation (101/103)

June 10, Tuesday
12:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)
1:00 PM Ongoing Buddhist Book Discussion (101/103)
5:30 PM Pastoral Care 102
6:00 PM RE Council (Youth Room)
6:30 PM BOARD MEETING (2nd Tuesdays, 101/103)
7:00 PM ACLU-IN BOARD (American Civil Liberties Union) (212 2nd Tues. ea. month)
7:30 PM Drumming Circle (101/103), 2nd Tuesdays each month

June 11, Wednesday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
12:00 PM "The Principled Group" Noon Discussion (101/103)
2:30 PM Girl Scout Troop (FH)
6:00 PM Anon Meeting, 101/103

June 12, Thursday
5:30 PM Worship Committee (106)
5:30 PM Zazen Sitting, Chanting & Reading (M)
7:00 PM Social Justice Committee Meeting (104)

June 13, Friday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
12:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)

June 14, Saturday
8:00 AM Zen M
10:00 AM Indiana Moral Mondays Working Group (101/103): Broadcast from Indianapolis

June 15, Sunday
9:00 AM Forum (101/103):
10:30 AM Worship & RE
4:00 PM UU Photo Group (101/103)

June 16, Monday
Rev. Davis on Study Leave
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
12:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)
1:30 PM Writers' Group 101/103
7:00 PM Anon Meeting (anon FH)
7:00 PM Monday Meditation (101/103)

June 17, Tuesday
Rev. Davis on Study Leave
12:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)
1:00 PM Ongoing Buddhist Book Discussion (101/103)

June 18, Wednesday
Lafayette Independent Deadline: Wednesday before last Tuesday of month
Rev. Davis on Study Leave
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
9:00 AM Old Tippecanoe Quilting Guild
12:00 PM "The Principled Group" Noon Discussion (101/103)
2:30 PM Girl Scout Troop (FH)
6:00 PM Anon Meeting, 101/103
6:30 PM IVOW Dream Study Group (102)

June 19, Thursday
Rev. Davis on Study Leave
5:30 PM Zazen Sitting, Chanting & Reading (M)
6:00 PM Membership Committee Meeting: Sallie Cooke, Chairperson (104)
6:30 PM "The Conversation Project Continued...Guest Hospitalists from IU-Arnett" (101/103, time tbd)
7:30 PM SHM (Spontaneous Hopeful Monster) House Band (S) 1st and 3rd Thursdays

June 20, Friday
Rev. Davis on Study Leave
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
12:00 PM Anon Meeting (FH)
6:30 PM PRYSM (102)

June 21, Saturday
Possible Graduation Open House 2-6, 101/103
Rev. Davis on Study Leave
8:00 AM Zen M

June 22, Sunday
9:00 AM Forum (101/103):
10:30 AM Worship & RE

“It is not enough that we do our best; sometimes we must do what is required.”
― Winston Churchill

Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently.”
― Maya Angelou