Daily Archives: June 14, 2014

Lighted Chalice Weekly for June 15, 2014


Sunday Forum 9:00 a.m.; Sunday Service & Religious Exploration Classes 10:30 a.m.
Nursery & Childcare Available.

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Sunday June 15 Forum and Service

FORUM, 9 AM Please join us as Dr. Ed Eiler, Ed.D., presents “Current Issues in Education.” Since Dr. Eiler retired as Superintendent of the Lafayette School Corporation, he has served as a Visiting Assistant Clinical Professor at Purdue University, teaching courses to prospective principals and superintendents. That appointment ended in May. He has also done consulting, which he continues to do in a number of Indiana school districts.Over the past thirty plus years Dr. Eiler has served in a variety of administrative roles. He has earned degrees from Purdue University, the University of Pennsylvania, and Ball State University, and is the author of a number of articles. Dr. Eiler has served as an instructor in a number of graduate level educational leadership courses. He also has served as a member of the Indiana State Board of Education. He is the proud father of three children and grandfather of five very special grandchildren. Forum Co-Chairs are Jim Anderson, Tom McConville, and Bill Welge.

SERVICE, 10:30 AM Rev. Daniel Charles Davis presents “The Reinvention of Fatherhood.” Once, a man’s only job was to bring home the bacon, whether by hunting wild boar or earning a living outside the home. Fatherhood has become more complex than in previous generations. Worship Associate, Bill Welge. Pianist, Richard Maddux. Sound Technician, Mary Finley. Sanctuary Preparation, Nina Kirkpatrick. Fellowship Team Leaders, Joshua and Linda Prokopy.

 Religious education for children and youth

Kids should wear clothes that are okay to get dirty- today we continue the planting of our pizza garden!!

The high school youth group has a trip to Cedar Point coming up Friday-Saturday, June 13–14.Parents and youth—watch your email for more info and be sure to let Kat and Mark know if you plan to join in on the fun asap!In July, we have two youth who will be attending Youth Midwest Leadership School—a very cool thing, not only for them, but for the youth group and congregation—way to represent UUCTC Fia Esquivel and Ben Lincourt!!

At some point this summer, (hopefully sooner, rather than later) we hope to have a Spirit Play story basket making party, open to everyone.And last but not least, coming this fall, Barny Dunning and Amy French will be teaching 7th-9th grade Our Whole Lives (OWL), comprehensive sexual education. Be sure and speak with one of them if you have or know of a youth who might be interested in participating.

In the coming weeks, please be looking for R.E. registration forms and get them completed asap! really makes a difference to have them when trying to plan.R.E council members for next year areSchnapp, Elizabeth Hoffmann, Kirsten Reynolds, Andrea Burniske, and Neil Schmitzer-Torbert. one of them contacts you to help out, please consider it.I think most adults find working with our kiddos a surprisingly meaningful endeavor and spiritual practice for themselves.

-- Sheila Garrett, DRE.

Sunday June 22 Forum and Service

FORUM, 9 AM Please join us as Dr. Rocky Killion, Ph.D., Superintendent of the West Lafayette Community School Corporation, presents “Education by Humiliation.” Education by Humiliation Summary by Dr. Killion: A federal education policy agenda that leverages equitable resources and invests strategically in high-quality teaching would support real accountability--that is, accountability to children and parents for providing the conditions under which students can be expected to acquire the skills they need to succeed. Merely adopting tests and punishments will not create genuine accountability. In fact, adopting punitive sanctions without investments increases the likelihood that the most vulnerable students will be more severely victimized by a system not organized to support their learning. As Strauss points out in her article, the current government system of legislators handing down unproven education requirements to public schools without any accountability on their part is nothing more than “education by humiliation.” In addition to a doctorate from Purdue University, Rocky Killion holds an M.M.E. from the College Conservatory of Music, The University of Cincinnati, Ohio; a B.S. in Music Education from Southwest Missouri State University; and a B.A. in Sacred Music from Central Bible College of Springfield, Missouri.

SERVICE, 10:30 AM Worship Chairperson Dianna Poindexter presents “The UU First Principle Project.” The First Principle Project proposes to expand our first principle from the Inherent Worth and Dignity of Every Person to the Inherent Worth and Dignity of All Beings. What would this mean in practice and spirit? Congregational Response will be welcomed. Special Music by Spontaneous Hopeful Monster. Worship Associate, Michael Lewis. Pianist, Richard Maddux. Sound Technician, Mike Marsh. Sanctuary Preparation, Robin Poindexter. Fellowship Team Leader, Susanne McConville.


Change for Change recipients

The theme for 2014 is “Helping Our Community.” The May/June C4Crecipient is Home with Hope. The Home With Hope is the only facility of its kind in the Lafayette area that provides a continuum of care, often following primary treatment or detox for alcoholism and other drug addictions, for men and women age 18 and older. “We help our clients learn how to live their lives as acceptable members of their communities, free from addiction and substance abuse, by providing an environment conducive to recovery.  We provide strict monitoring and structure, case management, random drug and alcohol screening, and the opportunity to seek employment and work in the community.  Further, we require daily 12-step meeting attendance, acquiring a 12-step sponsor and ‘home group’ within their first 30 days of residency, as well as daily accountability.”


The Membership Committee has a mission of nurturing and supporting members through all stages of their membership journey. The Committee meets on the fourth Thursday of the month at 6:00 PM. For questions about the committee, please contact Sallie Cooke, salliec@frontier.com.

The 2014 Member Directory will be available in print copy. The printing cost is $3.00 so donations will be most welcome to help defray the expense to produce the directory. Rosemary Leary continues to donate countless hours to photograph individuals and families and to compile the print copies. The directory may also be viewed online.

Josh Prokopy writes biographies of members for the Membership bulletin board and for publication in the newsletter. All biographies are archived in a notebook in the library.

We hope you will use the member directory and the member biographies to get to know the people in this wonderful UU community.

-- Sallie Cooke, Membership Chairperson, sallie@frontier.com

Photo directories

We have recently printed another edition of our UUC picture directory.you would like your picture added or updated, contact Rosemary Leary at 463-4246 or rleary207@aol.com. We will be taking pictures at church on Sunday mornings, or you can send her a jpeg format digital picture that you would like to have us use.

Spirit Play Item Donation Needed!

We are gathering items for our Spirit Play classroom. Please take a look through your home and see if you could spare some of the items we will need. Donations are being accepted now in the preschool room. hope to be able to schedule a Spirit Play work party day sometime very soon.

**Spiritual Play/Story Basket Creation**

  • wooden figures representing people, animals, and objects
  • greenery (trees, plants)
  • small (under 6") high quality stuffed animals/finger puppets (especially realistic ones)
  • high quality sets of blocks (natural color: architectural blocks especially sought)
  • other sacred objects or models of sacred places (singing bowls, Buddha statues, Stonehenge models, Zen sand gardens, finger labyrinths, etc.)
  • Child-sized clothing from world cultures and religions
  • high quality items relating to religious holidays (i.e. creche sets)

Household items

  • 3-5 foot wooden bookcases
  • child-sized wooden table seating 2-4 kids
  • carpet sweeper
  • child-sized brooms, dustpans, and dusters
  • working ipods/docking stations
  • CD players and headphones
  • CDs of spiritual/reflective music or music of world cultures and religions
  • baskets (all sizes, without overarching handles)
  • attractive trays (all sizes)
  • attractive small cups, bowls, and pitchers
  • wooden boxes
  • small sturdy vases

Craft items

World religions rubber stamps (cross, Star of David, mandala, yin yang, etc.) plain child-sized smocks or aprons mandala makers mosaic tiles


  • play silks or scarves
  • musical instruments

Sheila Garrett, DRE

Join us for an evening of FUNraising with Friends!

What: UUC Service Auction
When: Friday, June 20th
Time: Doors Open at 5:30 pm
Dinner Starts at 6:00 pm
Auction Starts at 6:45 pm
After Auction Bonfire Party Starts at 9:00 pm
Where: Unitarian Universalist Church
333 Meridian Street West Lafayette
Cost: $10
Childcare: 6 - 10 pm

Join us for an evening of FUNraising with Friends!
Dinner - Live Auction - Service Auction - Raffle - Dessert Auction - Craft Beer & Wine Raffle - After Party Bonfire
Can't stay all night? Check out will be open all night.

Just a Few of the Items up for AUCTION!
- Murder Mystery Dinner
- Home Brewing Lessons
- Bird Watching Tours
- Feminist Book Group Basket
- 4 Hours of Help (Cleaning, Organizing, Shuttle Service, etc.)
- Moroccan Dinner for FOUR
- Corks 'n Canvas Painting Party
- Face Painting for Children's Party
- Cooking Lessons

Ideas for Donations:
- Babysitting for Christmas Shopping
- Car Detailing
- Bread of the Month
- Garden Baskets (Do you have a garden? Could you share?)
- Do you live near other UUs? How about a Progressive Dinner?
- Are you an artist? What about painting a wall mural?
- Can you quilt? Can you make a Tee Shirt Quilt out of saved children's tees?

Specific Needs:
- Desserts for the Dessert Auction
- Craft Beers & Wines for Raffle
- An artist or artists willing to decorate TOMS Shoes donated by another congregant.
- Musicians willing to play at the Bonfire.
- Are you a musician with a CD? We would like to auction off a collection of works by our in house musicians.

How You Can Help:
-Would you like to attend the auction for free? We need help in the Kitchen, Set Up, and Check Out.

Please support Energy Indiana!

Energizing Indiana has supported our congregation. Now our congregation can support Energizing Indiana.

There is a proposal to cut them out of the Indiana state budget. There is a comment period on Energizing Indiana that expires Monday, 6/9. This link will support Energizing Indiana so that their funding will be restored.

Energizing Indiana sponsored a program that performed many home energy audits for our members along with free high efficiency light bulbs and shower heads. Energizing Indiana paid over $1200 dollars to our church for sponsoring these audits. Energizing Indiana performed a four hour energy audit at the church building last month and delivered a 12 page report to us.

Please comment on the link to help restore support of Energizing Indiana.

With Gratitude and Hope,
Rev. Charlie

(Second week of 3 for this announcement)

A-REC Presents Ongoing opportunities at UUC!

  • Monday Evening Meditation: 7-8:15 pm, Room 101/103 with Larry Hicks & Jody Tishmack; other facilitators to be arranged
  • Taiji Qi Gong: Monday/Wednesday/ Friday 7:30 am with Lisa Petersen
  • Zen Meditation: Thursday 5:30 pm, sitting, chanting & reading; Saturday 8:00 am, with Russ Flynn

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June 18: UU Flames softball game, 7:00, Blessed Sacrament fields

June 19: What to Expect During a Hospital Stay, 6:30-8:30 pm, Rm 101/103.

A short presentation by Dr. Jeffrey Brown, Medical Director and Hospitalist Department Director and Dr. Jim Bien, Vice President of Quality & Patient Safety followed by ample time for conversation.

Part of The Conversation Project, this program will help you and your family know how to talk "in advance" about various types of care you want OR don't want to receive during an inpatient hospital stay.  Contact Suzan Windnagel, A-REC or Karin Bergman uuc@uulafayette.org and 765-743-8812 with questions.

June 20: UU Service Auction!

The UU Service Auction is quickly approaching. This year we are holding our Service Auction on June 20th,  6:00 pm-10:00pm. Tickets are $10 per person and will include dinner. Child care will be provided. Service Auction donation forms, which will soon be available, can be submitted to Julie Rubsam. Donation items need to be dropped off to the “Upper Room” of the Fellowship Hall by June 13th to be included in event program. Contact: Julie Rubsam, 765-412-2967, julie@rubsam.net

June 25: UU Flames softball game, 7:20, Arni Cohen Fields South #1

June 26: A-REC Book Discussion Group: "You Can't Put God in a Box: Thoughtful Spirituality in a Rational Age." 6:30 -7:30 PM. 

Come discuss Can't put God in a Box: Thoughtful Spirituality in a Rational AgeKelly Besecke. book explores the theological thinking of educated spiritual seekers and religious liberals, and shows how many of them have come up with a unique way of addressing the "modern problem of meaninglessness." do you think?  You don't have to have read the book, but if you'd like to purchase it, we are taking orders and will order the book for you -- $20 including shipping.  Books must be ordered by June 5. Please contact Janice Schuster if you would like to order a book: jrschust@gmail.com.  In addition, the author will be speaking at our church in the Fall for another A-REC activity; this would be an opportunity to discuss the book before her visit.

July 2: UU Flames softball game, 7:20, Blessed Sacrament fields

July 10: Social Justice meeting

There is much to be done in the social justice arena; if you are interested in becoming involved in our activities, please join us at our next meeting-- Thursday, July 10 at 7:00 pm in Room 101-103.  If you have questions, concerns, or ideas, contact co-chairs Joan Marshall, jmarshal900@yahoo.com, &Tom McConville, tmcconville1200@comcast.net.

July 13: Talk and Tour, after service

Please join us immediately following service each 2nd Sunday for “Talk and Tour,” next on July 13. This 15-minute guided walk through the building is designed to familiarize newcomers with our congregation and facilities.Participants do not need to sign up in advance—simply gather at the Newcomers Table outside the Fellowship Hall at 11:45. Thanks!

Daily Calendar for June

13, Friday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson

14, Saturday
8:00 AM Zen M
10:00 AM Indiana Moral Mondays Working Group (101/103): Broadcast from Indianapolis

15, Sunday
9:00 AM Forum (101/103):
10:30 AM Worship & RE
4:00 PM CircAfrique Special Guest: Out of Town Drumming Specialist (101/103)
4:00 PM UU Photo Group (102)

16, Monday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
1:30 PM Writers' Group 101/103
7:00 PM Monday Meditation (101/103)

17, Tuesday
1:00 PM Ongoing Buddhist Book Discussion (101/103)

18, Wednesday
Lafayette Independent Deadline: Wednesday before last Tuesday of month
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
9:00 AM Old Tippecanoe Quilting Guild
12:00 PM "The Principled Group" Noon Discussion (101/103)
2:30 PM Girl Scout Troop (FH)
6:30 PM IVOW Dream Study Group (102)

19, Thursday
5:30 PM Zazen Sitting, Chanting & Reading (M)
6:30 PM "The Conversation Project Continued...Guest Hospitalists from IU-Arnett" (101/103, time tad)
7:30 PM SHM (Spontaneous Hopeful Monster) House Band (S) 1st and 3rd Thursdays

20, Friday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
5:30 PM UU SERVICE AUCTION! Doors open 5:30pm, dinner 6:00pm, auction begins 6:30pm, BONFIRE 9pm!!!
6:30 PM PRYSM (102)

21, Saturday Happy Solstice!
8:00 AM Zen M

22, Sunday
9:00 AM Forum (101/103):
10:30 AM Worship & RE

23, Monday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
7:00 PM Monday Meditation (101/103)

24, Tuesday
1:00 PM Ongoing Buddhist Book Discussion (101/103)
6:30 PM Committee on Ministry (101/103)

25, Wednesday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson
12:00 PM "The Principled Group" Noon Discussion (101/103)

26, Thursday
5:30 PM Zazen Sitting, Chanting & Reading (M)
6:00 PM Membership Committee Meeting: Sallie Cooke, Chairperson (104)
6:30 PM A-REC Book Discussion Group: "You Can't Put God in a Box: Thoughtful Spirituality in a Rational Age." Author Kelly Besecke will visit in September (101/103)

27, Friday
7:30 AM Taiji Qigong with Lisa Peterson

28, Saturday Rev. Davis on Vacation
8:00 AM Zen M
10:00 AM West Lafayette "Art in Bloom Garden Tour" map/direction distribution site UU front lawn

“Your children are not your children.
They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and
He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness.
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He also loves the bow that is stable.”

~Khalil Gibran, 1883-1931

“I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren't trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom.”

~Umberto Eco, Foucault's Pendulum, b. 1932

“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths,
but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.”
~Anne Frank